Ultimate Sex Tips Part-3

21 Don't head straight for the jackpot. Men have all their erogenous zones concentrated in one area but they still like to be teased, stroked and caressed all over.

Drive him wild by stroking the perineum - the space between the bottom and scrotum - and you'll increase the intensity of his orgasm.

22 It's not the size that counts, it's what you do with it. The average penis size is five inches erect, but as only the bottom third of the vagina has the sensitivity, any more than that is wasted! A good position if your partner has a small penis is "spoons" as this gives deeper penetration.

23 Dream on - there's no harm in thinking about someone else when you're having sex. You're using it to enhance your sexual experience and it can help to keep your mind on the job, especially if you're tired or feeling stressed at work.

24 Don't stop having sex. As you get older it can be more of a challenge to keep your sex life exciting and you do have to adapt, increasing the amount of foreplay.

The real trick is to be able to look at your lover and conjure up the feelings you had when you first got together.

25 Sex brings you closer. It anchors you as a person and creates closeness with your partner. Sex gives you a sense of self-worth - that union with someone who values and wants to be intimate with you.

Ultimate Sex Tips Part-2

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Ultimate Sex Tips Part-1

1 Don't believe the hype! We're misled that "good" sex is lots of penetration with g-spot stimulation and huge orgasms.
The truth is that the average person has sex once a week or less. What's more important is the quality of sex rather than quantity, as is exploring all your erotic zones from toes to clitoris to earlobes.
2 Things outside the bedroom cause most sex problems. Women who get time to rest, have help with housework or childcare report more satisfying sex lives.
3 Poor body image is a cause of women's sexual problems. Build your confidence and you'll feel more like being intimate. Try taking classes on assertiveness, drama or dance.
4 Many women aren't sure what turns them on, or they know what they fancy but are too shy to say. Help yourself by exploring masturbation and fantasies on your own, then with your partner. Dr Sprinkle's Spectacular Sex (Tarcher, £14.99) helps you work out what you'd like to do, while Carol Queen's book Exhibitionism For The Shy (Down There Press) explains how to ask for it.
5 Condoms are the new sex toys. As well as making him last longer, they're guaranteed to turn you on with their different textures or added lubricants. They're also free from family planning or GU clinics
6 Dare to ask for what you want - but not when you're having sex. You might laugh, but I have manuals to give to couples on when to talk about sex. Choose a time when you're both relaxed, not hungry and never be critical while you're actually having sex.
7 Take your time over things. It shocks couples when I ask them how long it takes for love-making and they think this means how long it takes to have sex. Love-making might lead to intercourse or it might not. Make time to caress, massage and enjoy each other's company.
8 Women suffer brewer's droop too. Alcohol may take away your inhibitions but it can also affect libido, interfere with lubrication and cause a loss of sensation. Over time alcohol and cigarettes will seriously affect your sexual function as they affect your nervous system and circulation.
9 Orgasm is an experience - not a goal. Many couples come to me disappointed they can't reach orgasm together. It's not the same experience for men and women. Clitoral stimulation leads to a sharp, intense orgasm - like a man's - but with penetrative sex women may be able to reach multiple, less intense orgasms.
10 Good sex is the result of physical and mental well-being. Eating a well-balanced diet, not smoking, not drinking large amounts of alcohol and caffeine, sleeping well and exercising regularly could guarantee a better sex life for most people.

Surprise Your Man Tonight

Dress to Impress

Some ideas might be:

• Dress up in a sexy cocktail or evening dress.
• Wear some sexy underwear.
• Put some make-up on.

You needn’t go for the whole stockings and suspenders routine every time, it’s often just as good to wear a nice dress for dinner perhaps; and this includes staying in for dinner. There doesn’t have to be an excuse to look good, and you’ll find that if you present yourself for your man in a nicely packaged form, you’ll begin to get a little more from him in return.

Listen to Your Man
You can also make things a little more special if you listen to your man:

• Ask him about his sexual desires.
• Tell him your desires.
• Agree to do something new that night.

Agreeing to do something that very night is an enormous turn on for a guy. Although men like to be surprised as much as women, it’s sometimes enough of a surprise to tell your man that you intend to do something sexy. Try telling him what you’re going to do to him in the bedroom at the beginning of the evening and then stick to it!

Talk Dirty to Him
There are an enormous amount of men out there who absolutely adore talking dirty and hearing dirty talk. It’s always good to try this out on your man, even if you’re not sure if he likes it or not. If he doesn’t like it then he’ll be sure to tell you so!

Don’t be embarrassed about saying something really filthy. At least you’re trying new things, and if you are in a loving relationship, then you can always laugh about it afterwards if things haven’t gone according to plan. However, we can pretty much guarantee that if you do this, he will respond positively!

Don’t Smother Him
Men in general don’t like to be too tactile during and after sex. This is a fact, and if you have a man who does like to be tactile after sex, then you’re either very lucky or he is actually gay (or a woman). It’s always good to get a nice cuddle after sex, but if you have complained about his to him before, then remember that this article is how to surprise him.

Just don’t mention it, and do what you think he would like for a change. If your man is a good one, he’ll remember your efforts and more than likely pay you back next time around with a nice cuddle. It’s all about give and take.

Blow His Mind!
Here’s the big one. Everyone knows how much a man likes a blowjob don’t they? Well if you don’t know this then it’s lucky that you’re reading this article, because you will certainly surprise your man if you’ve never done it to him before.

If you’ve never done it then try it.

Sex Tips for Older Women

Your sex life will change as your body ages. These changes can be addressed and you can have healthy, satisfying sex your entire life. By communicating with your partner, taking care of your health and maintaining a good emotional perspective, your sex life can grow richer with the years. 

1. Talk With Your Partner

Open communication has always been essential for good sex. Talk with your partner about any sexual difficulties you might be having as a couple. Try to treat the difficulties as problems to solve and work together on finding creative solutions.

2. Lubricate

As a woman ages, natural lubrication for sexual intercourse decreases. This is easily fixed by using a water-based lubricant. At first, applying a lubricant for sex may seem awkward, but you and your partner will quickly become used to it and can even incorporate it into foreplay.

3. Experiment with Positions and Times

Pain caused by arthritis or other condition can interfere with sex. Experiment with different sexual positions, and you may find one that works much better. Also, arthritis and other pain conditions are often less severe at certain times a day, which will vary for each person. Try having sex when your pain is the least severe.

4. Deal with Erectile Problems

For men, trouble having an erection is an expected part of aging. If this happens to your partner, gently help him troubleshoot this problem. Lifestyle changes and medications that can help.

5. Feel Beautiful

We live in a culture that is constantly showing us images of youth and beauty. As women age, they may feel less sexually attractive, which can interfere with sexual desire. Try not to be influenced by these cultural messages. Sure, your body changes as you age, but that does not reflect on your worth or desirability. Ignore messages and stereotypes from television, magazines and other media sources and embrace your body at every stage of your life.

6. Take Care of Your Health

Poor health can interfere with sexual satisfaction. If you have a health condition, be sure to the manage it. Follow your doctor’s orders and make the lifestyle changes you need to be healthy. Losing weight, exercising and eating well will not only improve your health, your sex life will also improve.

7. Sex After Surgery

As women age, they may need to undergo surgical procedures that alter the reproductive organs. The most common are mastectomy (the removal of a breast or part of a breast to treat cancer) or hysterectomy (the removal of the uterus and sometimes the ovaries). These surgeries do not interfere with a woman’s ability to have sex. However, these procedures can dramatically change how a woman perceives her own attractiveness. Open communication with your partner both before and after these procedures can help reduce anxiety and negativity.

8. Safe Sex

Any sexually active adult needs to protect herself from sexually transmitted diseases. Sexually transmitted infections, including HIV, are on the rise in older adults. Older adults have had more time to develop a sexual history. Also, many infections can remain dormant for years in people. Do not assume that an older sexual partner is a safe sexual partner. Always practice safe sex.

9. Talk to Your Doctor

If you or your partner are having sexual difficulties, talk to your doctor. There may be simple solutions to your problems such as changing the time of day that you take a medication or making lifestyle changes. Expect that you will have to make adjustments in your life and sexual habits as you age. Your doctor can help your these adaptations go smoothly.

10. Vibrators and Masturbation

It is a simple fact that men have shorter life expectancies than women, resulting in a large number of older widowed or single women. Sex and orgasms bring both emotional and physical benefits. Women should not feel guilty about masturbation. Vibrators and other devices can help tremendously. 

Sex Tips For Women

Women are always looking for sex tips in order to increase their sexual performance in bed. This is a very healthy attitude to have. Although looking for the best tips can be embarrassing, it is important to spend the time to find out what you can do to increase your performance in bed. Sexually pleasing your husband is an important part of your marriage and one that should never be forgotten.

Make Time for Intimacy

First, realize that sex is important. It may not be the most important part of your relationship but it should be one of your top priorities. Connecting with your husband on an intimate level is something just you and he share. Something special and sacred just for the two of you. The stresses of modern life, children and work often overwhelm us and one of the first things to get cut out of our lives is our sex life with our husband. Realize the importance of love making with your spouse and make sure to set aside time for this important activity. Even if you only have a few hours a week, make sure to find the time for you and your husband to enjoy intimacy together.

Turn Yourself into a Sexual Being

A second sexual tip is that as women, we are often concerned that our husbands don’t find us sexually attractive any more. We wonder how they can find us attractive after child birth or after we have gained a few pounds or even a few wrinkles. The best way to combat this is to feel like a sexual being yourself. This isn’t as difficult as it seems. Lingerie, a beautiful dress or a special haircut can all improve the way we feel about ourselves sexually speaking. Don’t rely on your husband to make you feel sexy, make the changes in your life to feel sexual yourself. It will make all the difference when you realize the insecurities about your body or your age have melted away and you are no longer wondering if you are sexy, you just feel sexy.

Open and Honest Communication to Improve Your Sex Life

A final best tip to increase your sexual performance is open communication. This is often difficult for women because many times sex is about intimacy for them instead of the physical act. Talking to your husband about his needs, wants and desires and acting on them is a great way to perform better in bed. As an added benefit, this open and frank discussion will also tip your husband off to some of your inner most desires. These talks can change your sex life from boring to phenomenal almost over night.

Performing better in bed is actually a simple matter is your follow a few sex tips. The best sex tips will enable you to let go of your own insecurities, feel more sexual yourself and learn your husband’s inner most desires. These sexual performance tips for women can make all the difference in your sex life and lead to more satisfying and intimate encounters. Sex is an important part of your life, treat it that way and you can’t go wrong.